Get out your calendar or day planner and take a look at the days of the week.

If you have a calendar like mind, you will see Sunday, Monday, Tuesday, Wednesday, Thursday, Friday and Saturday. What you will not see is Someday.

So here is the point - There is no someday!

Our belief in "someday I will...." is a myth that holds us back in life. We fool ourselves this way. It's one way we rationalize. Read the word rationalize as "rational - lies."

How to make "someday" a series of todays

Heres a quick little reminder that there is no someday - get a sheet of paper and write down the year 2005. Next to that write your age, then next to that the age of your spouse, then the age of each of your children.

Now do the same for 2006, 2007 etc.., all the way to 2015.

For me this year would be 2005-47-41-11-3 and ten years from now 2015-57-51-21-13.

This little checkup can give you a sense of urgency about how quickly time passes and how you use your time.

How many summers does that leave you with the kids at home? How many holidays do you have left? How many.........well, you get the idea.

Turn those somedays into a series of todays.

Jeff Herring

Jeff is a marriage and family therapist, singles and relationship coach, mentor coach, speaker, syndicated relationship columnist and author.

Jeff has a full time private practice in Tallahassee in which he specializes in couples, teen and parent counseling. He also is a relationship coach specializing in working with couples and singles. Some of his professional activities include:

==> Internationally syndicated relationship columnist through Knight-Ridder/Tribune Media Services, with a weekly readership of over 10 million worldwide

==> Sought after speaker for organizations, associations, churches, and corporations

==>Twice weekly appearances on The Steve and Sara Show on Magic 107.1

==> Author of "Keep the Changes: 52 Tools for Successful Living" a collection of his best columns, as well as several e-books including "How to Create a Passionate and Loving Relationship.........Forever," "How to Beat the BOZOs: Dealing with difficult people without becoming one," and "Tame Your Teen: THE survival guide for parenting your teenager.

==> Founder and CEO of TheArticleGuy.com

==> Founder and CEO of SecretsofGreatRelationships.com

==> Founder and CEO of ParentingYourTeeanger.com

==> Founder and CEO of ToolsforSuccessfulLiving.com

==> President of BuildingYourIdealPractice.com

==> President of ConsciousDatingTallahassee.com