Open your mouth. What do I mean? Talk say whats on your mind. Walking around with a chip on your shoulder will not strengthen your relationship. It will only create more distance between you and your mate. If you cant find the right words to say, write a letter. You may think that not saying something will make the issue or problem go away it wont. What it will do is build resentment towards your mate and open up the door for other problems to crawl in.

Zip it. You must think Im nuts telling you to talk and now Im telling you to zip it. What I mean is this after you have said your piece, listen with your heart for understanding instead of gathering information to be used as ammunition. Do your best to not interrupt while your mate is speaking.

Use tact. Say whats on your mind honestly and with as much love, kindness, respect and consideration. Remove criticism, contempt and defensiveness from your delivery. In your reply, use words like, So what I hear you saying is or If I heard you correctly, what you mean is this Statements like these let your mate know that you care.

Fix it. Repair any damage done in an argument immediately. If youve said something you know you shouldnt have said, apologize today not tomorrow and never go to sleep without saying I love you. There is no guarantee that you will wake up.

Let it flow. Dont expect conflict to be resolved once and for all. Allow for continued discussion. Effective communication takes time. Trial and error is necessary in order to become a master at any skill. The same holds true for great communication.

Take a break. If the disagreement begins and continues in a harsh way, take a break and continue later. Little is accomplished with two hot heads in the room. Better results are guaranteed when you are calm, cool and collected.

Own up. Im a huge fan of self-responsibility. Stop blaming your mate and acknowledge your responsibility in whats causing troubles in your relationship. If you screwed up and know you are dead wrong for what you did or said, own up!

When love and skill work together, expect a masterpiece.

Yvonne Chase

Dating & Relationship Coach Yvonne Chase affectionately known as ?The Single Woman?s Cheerleader? is creator of the life changing course, Stop Looking, Start Attracting.

Her #1 mission is to create a movement of Available and Happy single women who celebrate living single. I want single women all over the world to embrace living single, accept living single and take total advantage of this season in life. Our single years can provide unique opportunities that may not show up later in life. The time, energy, and material resources that we can devote to these opportunities - and the spontaneity and intensity with which we can do so - are typically much greater during our single years than they are after we marry and start families.

Her #2 mission is to bring the climbing divorce rate to a screeching halt by teaching single women dating and relationship skills via the STOP LOOKING ? START ATTRACTING program. This program will help you become clear about who you are, what you want and how to get what you want in your life and relationship. The first step in making a love connection is being the best, happiest most fulfilled YOU that you can be.

Available and Happy = Hitched and Happy!