Many, many women I know are self sufficient, successful and capable. They spent many years getting a degree or advanced degree and are now in a very successful and rewarding career. Theyve bought houses, gone on trips and own businesses, theyre beautiful and are amazing human beings.. but they have no idea why they cant get a man to stay!!!

Im not talking about the women who dont WANT a man in their life. Theyve been there and done it! Im talking about the woman who WANTS a man, a companion and a friend to share their life with. And I dont mean a gay man!

Many of these women are teaching in universities, running businesses or partners in a law firm. Theyre content on the outside, but very much would like to have a man at their side. Theyll NEVER admit it to anyone, because theyre often teased about being single and are always showing up to events with friends and not a companion. Theyre tough on the outside, because theyve had to be.

But when they get together with their closest friends, or their coach, they confide in each other and this is what theyve shared:

They dont NEED A man.. but they WANT one.

Ive learned so many amazing things from being around these women. They are truly incredibly self sufficient and can run their house better than most women I know. But there is one thing they lack and its what I have taught them:

Warmth with people and of course.. the all important FLIRTING SKILLS!!!

Now before you go and stop reading because I went and wrote something so incredibly basic, let me ask you this:

*When did you last make the person you were talking with, feel good about themselves?

*When was the last time you let the person you were talking to, know that they were needed?

*When was the last time that the person who was talking to you, walked away with a smile on their face?

If the answer to any of these questions was I dont remember then that was TOO long ago! If the answer was just yesterday.. then youre doing a good job!

Todays world is so busy, that we rush through life just trying to squeeze all of the necessary things in. Often times we dont give the actual people we come in contact with a second look, let alone a thought.

When Im working with the people who want to develop warmth in their life the first thing I do is to send them out with a different set of eyes. When they go to the store, their ASSIGNMENT is to greet the people behind the meat counter or cash register and make THEM feel special.

How is a person supposed to do THAT you ask? Two days ago, I decided to make Cuban Sandwiches for lunch. So, I went to the 17 year old boy behind the counter and started asking for his recommendations for meat, for condiments, and for cheese. Before you knew it, he was telling me OTHER dishes he wanted to make or had made recently. We were having a terrific conversation and when I left, I told him this: I can guarantee that youre going to make a great husband! When I left, I knew he felt great.. and I did too.

Practicing in low risk situation is always the best. So when youre in that situation of really wanting to show a person of the opposite sex that youd like to get to know them BETTER, then youll have LOTS of practice of making a person feel special.

Okay, yes, flirting does also involve dressing up a bit, using the long linger of the eyes, glancing sideways at the person you admire and quickly away with a smile, and all of those little things that we can do when we like someone. To some people, these come naturally, but to others, they have to learn them all again.

Other suggestions for the ALL IMPORTANT flirting are to briefly touch the man on his arm, laugh at all of his jokes, and keep your body very casual, not so professional, stiff and unrelaxed. Hell REALLY get the drift if you say something like, oh my gosh.. youre so silly while you laugh with him and give him a little push on the arm just for good measure!

But the best one is to really make a person feel special and NEEDED. If youre incredibly self sufficient then GREAT. But dont let your being a complete human without a man side of you forget that MEN NEED TO BE NEEDED. They want to feel and BE special to that special woman, and they want to know that to the outside world, youre competent, successful and beautiful but at home?

All you need is HIM!